Intimidating facial features
Many people tend to communicate defensively, especially when feeling nervous and threatened.
When we are not tracking the influence of intimidation on how we relate, it is likely we will fall into maladaptive patterns.
Once we’ve begun to deal with intimidation, we’ll be able to move forward with constructive and possibly reparative conversations to establish better norms.
Being told we are intimidating—and more so becoming aware that we actually have been intimidating—can be a bitter pill to swallow.
Calling out intimidation in more specific ways can be hazardous to one’s career, reputation, and well-being.
Identifying true intimidation isn’t always straightforward There are times, however, when we believe the other person is intimidating.
Given the persistence of abuse and harassment across the spectrum of human relationships, from family, to friends, to professional relationships—indeed to one’s relationship with oneself—more than ever we face a growing need to question intimidation dynamics, closely examining the underlying conscious and unconscious motives in order to extricate ourselves from the shadowy history of chronic maltreatment of one another.Counterintuitively, others’ experiences of us as intimidating may say more about us than they do about them.Here are some factors that may be running in the background when we think others are intimidating: 1.We trade off being more likely to detect predators for being more likely to think someone may be a threat when they are actually not.Aside from developmental factors, some people may be predisposed to misinterpret social cues as threats or anger when they actually represent a different emotion, such as nervousness or anxiety.