Dating an uneducated man
Like bubblagirl says part of the fun is finding out about each other's interests.However i think this class thing matters to you very much and you seem quite aware/caught up in it.be careful Reading your Op again Sparklet, I think that the fact you have to pussyfoot around him - being careful not to be too assertive etc means that you are adjusting your personality to keep him happy which will be very difficult to maintain in the long run and could well end up with you resenting him.Or you will revert to your real personality and he will wonder what the hell has happened! Glad there are some of you who don't condemn me - as far as I can see, I'm just being a realist.So I would say that although it shouldn't matter to either of you, it clearly does matter to both of you which could mean later unless you sort it out. Ps, the problems your relationship faces are greatly oversimplified by saying that you went to university and he did not.He feels he didn't have the opportunities he would have liked.Could you share your interests in music and literature with friends and share your common interests with him?Chip on his shoulder about you being assertive would worry me, as would not being good with money.
There's one issue in particular I want to be comfortable with and please don't think I'm a snob but I can't ignore certain signs.
He sounds lovely from the first paragraph and if I were you, I might be inclined to stifle my doubts about the second.
For you, does level of education and interest in the same music and books trump being gentle, kind and fab in bed?
For eg you say that you have a love of music and literature and say that he doesn't share this as he is a different class.
But many middle and upper class people have no interest in music (assume you mean classical) or literature, while many "lower" classes do.