Dating a loner boyfriend
She created direction in her music, designed the cover art, directed the music video and also tailored stylish outfit to fit perfectly.Kali Uchis, with her immense popularity and success, has earned 780k followers on her Instagram account.And sometimes, it’s saying “I love you” or referring to you as his girlfriend, just because it makes you feel safe.And if I have one big opposition to this man’s behavior, it’s that he’s standing on some sort of principle, putting his needs above yours, and refusing to take the very simple step of calling a spade a spade: yes, you’re his girlfriend.”Add in the fact that “he doesn’t want the expectations that come with the title,” and, well, this is the one thing that I’m not sure I’d be able to get past if I were you.He wants to be judged for his actions, not his words. And if, after this conversation, he can’t give you this nominal gift of safety, I would highly consider moving on to a man who has the ability to step up and make you feel safe.
He wants the company, security, cuddles, sex, outings, phonecalls, meals together, weekend plans, but he doesn’t want the EMOTIONAL RESPONSIBILITY of being someone’s partner.
Those things are the foundation of your six month relationship and the reason that you’re agonizing over this man who claims not to be your boyfriend. Not to negotiate for the title of girlfriend, but to fully understand why it’s so important for him to reject the title and the responsibilities when he’s already acting like a full boyfriend to you.
And I must say: it’s entirely possible that he’s acting in full integrity, letting you know that he’s afraid of hurting you, that he wants to go slow and choose wisely, and that he really does value you and your relationship. Make it clear that you’re trying to understand him and let him know that he wouldn’t have to do anything different, but that it would make you very happy if you could feel safe in knowing that he was your boyfriend.
Yes, we are exclusive, and everything seemed and felt right, but I feel like he negated everything we have had now and feel like maybe I shouldn’t trust him. Personally, I’m of two minds about the whole thing.
Which is why I can’t weigh in all that heavily and tell you exactly what to do.